to empathize with our kids when they experience their own disappointments. Or you may not like the person your teen is dating at all. As your teen starts to date – as you support him, while managing your emotions and. 6) Making threats such as “if you date so and so, I won't pay for school or clothes or whatever” will only alienate your child. And then, should. An Open Letter to Our Teen Daughters About Relationships This is one of the most difficult articles that I've written to date. In fact It might be quite wonderful, disappointing or even disastrous in terms of expectations.